July 1, 2013
When The Water Calls ... We Follow

June 20, 2013
New Adventures

May 31, 2013
Storing Our Shiny Red Tug

May 13, 2013
Viva La Difference

May 6, 2013
Swinging Free & Easy

April 15, 2013
In The Middle

March 29, 2013
On The Hook

March 18, 2013
Tinker Time

February 28, 2013
Jumping Into the Mix

February 15, 2013
Time Travel

February 6, 2013
Charlevoix - A Small Town With A World-Class Reputation

January 15, 2013
The Perfect Ending

January 1, 2013
Magical Weather & Mysterious Ports

December 15, 2012
Collins Inlet, Killarney, & Little Current

December 1, 2012
New Neighbors

November 16, 2012
What Makes a Perfect Anchorage?

November 1, 2012
Are We There Yet?

October 15, 2012

October 1, 2012
Womens Roundtable

September 15, 2012
Freedom to Discover a Southern Gem

September 1, 2012

August 15, 2012
Nice to Have Options

August 1, 2012
Go West!

July 15, 2012
The Perfect Boating Vacation Destination

July 1, 2012

June 15, 2012
Flagler’s Folly

June 1, 2012
Everglades Detour

May 15, 2012
Making New Friends

May 1, 2012
Something Old and Something New

April 15, 2012
Florida’s Wide Open West Coast

April 1, 2012
Life On the Water in a Trailerable Trawler

March 15, 2012
Becoming Second Nature

March 1, 2012
Last Dance

February 15, 2012
Call it Romance or Mystique

February 1, 2012
Natural Wonders Abound

January 15, 2012
Hardly a Care in the World

January 1, 2012
Wide-Eyed Anticipation

December 15, 2011
Winding Our Way to Lake Powell

December 1, 2011
On to New Cruising Grounds

November 15, 2011
Sharing the Love

November 1, 2011
On the Water Again

October 14, 2011
First Impressions

October 3, 2011
Possession is Nine-Tenths of the Fun

September 15, 2011
Getting the Show on the Road

September 1, 2011
Lets Dance!

August 15, 2011
Getting Our Ducks in a Row

August 1, 2011
Summer Without a Boat

July 15, 2011
The Water and The Boater Home

July 1, 2011
One Step Closer

June 15, 2011
Time Keeps on slippin’ Into the Future

June 1, 2011
Made in the USA

May 15, 2011
Making the Right Truck Choice

May 1, 2011
Absence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder

April 15, 2011
What Goes Around Comes Around

April 1, 2011
Wishing Star Interlude

March 15, 2011
Helping Hands

March 1, 2011

February 15, 2011
Weighing the Options

February 1, 2011
Making a List, Checking it Twice!

January 14, 2011
The Science of Towing

December 30, 2010
The Upside of Downsizing

December 15, 2010
The New Plan!

December 1, 2010
Homeward Bound-The Final Leg

November 15, 2010
Somethings In The Water

November 1, 2010
Our Turn to Relax & Smile

October 15, 2010
Gem in the Rough

October 1, 2010
Whats Your Favorite Place on the Loop?

September 15, 2010
Reflecting Pool

September 1, 2010
Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder

August 15, 2010
Canadian Wonderland

August 1, 2010
"Low Bridge, Everybody Down"

July 15, 2010
One Day At A Time

July 1, 2010
Decisions, Decisions, Decisions!

June 15, 2010
Lets All Do the Rendezvous

June 1, 2010
On the Hard

May 15, 2010
Falling in Love With Key West

May 1, 2010
Helping Women Get On Board

April 15, 2010
Key West - A Repeat Performance

April 1, 2010
Unexpected Pleasures

March 15, 2010
Mom Cruise

March 1, 2010
Okeechobee Bound

February 15, 2010
Chance Encounters

February 1, 2010
Three Nights in Paradise

January 15, 2010
New Frontiers

January 1, 2010
First Time Experiences

December 15, 2009
A Friend In Every Port

December 1, 2009
Dealing With A Temperamental Lady

November 18, 2009
You Say Goodbye, I Say Hello

November 13, 2009
A Cult Following

October 15, 2009
Somewhere in Time

October 1, 2009
Unlocking Our Minds Eye

September 18, 2009
Its In My Nature

August 15, 2009
The RBS Antidote

August 1, 2009
Crab Crazy

July 15, 2009
Sights And Sounds Of The Bay

July 15, 2009
Sights And Sounds Of The Bay

June 15, 2009
Our Last Leg North

June 1, 2009
Northern Migration

May 15, 2009

May 1, 2009
Hello Goodbye

April 15, 2009
Let The Sun Shine In!

April 1, 2009
Dont Worry, Be Happy

March 15, 2009
Bahama Bound

March 1, 2009
What Do You Do All Day?

February 15, 2009
Slow Motion

February 1, 2009
On The Hook With A Million-Dollar View

January 15, 2009
High Anxiety

January 1, 2009
A String Of One-Night Stands

December 15, 2008
Pushing Into New Tennessee River, Upstream To Adventure

December 1, 2008
All Together Now

November 15, 2008
Kismet in the Aftermath of Hurricane Ike

October 31, 2008
Our Love Affair With The River

October 16, 2008
Big City Lights

October 1, 2008
The Adventure Begins

September 15, 2008
Prepping For The Loop

September 1, 2008
The Space Ship

August 15, 2008
Jumping Aboard In Seattle

August 1, 2008
If We Knew Then What We Know Now!

July 10, 2008
The Second Time Around

July 1, 2008
Our Turn For The Great American Loop


Helping Women Get On Board
By Kismet, Saturday, May 1, 2010

Since Jim and I sold our house (approx. five years ago) and moved aboard our boat Kismet, to seek adventure on the waterways, we have become quite experienced in most aspects of the “live aboard” lifestyle. Shortly after we immersed ourselves into our cruising adventures, we began to notice a recurring topic of conversation among boaters – women who were reluctant to join their male partners in this amazing way of life.

Not all women cruisers we meet start out with a burning passion to hit the waterways. It seems many have had a somewhat hard time in overcoming their misgivings and concerns about leaving home for one reason or another. If you’re a regular visitor to our BoatU.S. Cruising Logs, you’ll know I’m not one of these more typical women who’s faced with concerns about the prospect of living on a boat because, as you already know, I’m as passionate about my new lifestyle as my husband, Jim. I jumped at the chance to leave home to explore. However, as a woman it’s not hard for me to comprehend the seeds of terror lurking in these women’s hearts. I can understand to some degree where the terror starts, why and what it may take to sooth the fear. In fact, I have often been approached by or received email from a male boater asking me to take a minute to talk to his partner – to help relieve her anxieties about long distance cruising.

I don’t know why this subject hits home for me. Maybe it’s because I firmly believe my life wouldn’t have been complete without the boating adventures we’ve experienced during these last five years (I also say this about Jim – I wouldn’t have wanted to miss having him in my life). I feel a tremendous sense of inner satisfaction when I can share my own experiences with other women – actually helping to quell some of the building fear and assisting their efforts to get comfortably and happily “on board.” During my many conversations with hesitant women, who were soon to be boaters, I’ve seen a lot of light bulbs turn on as their expressions brighten while I share my insight, passion and enthusiasm for boating with them.

Jim and I started to talk about the possibility of taking some time out of our trip to publish a book on this topic, which has become close to my heart, and what such an undertaking would mean to our current rather laid back lifestyle and travel plans. Then we discussed different ways of approaching the subject and I came up with an outline of what I felt this book should be about. This is when I really began to feel the passion and excitement start to build for this project. What a great opportunity to help women, who were new to boating and uneasy with the thought of leaving their comfort zone to get “on board.”

Women are reluctant to adopt this nomadic lifestyle for many reasons. It may be that they don’t want to leave their young grandkids, maybe they can’t detach themselves from the comfort and safety of their home, some may think their social life, as they know it, will come to a screeching halt, others may actually fear that spending time with their partners in confined spaces will redefine their relationships. A very scary thought for some women apparently. I have been surprised by some of the statements they’ve shared with me, ones that were quickly and easily addressed and put to rest after just a short conversation.

I have also come to the conclusion that many men are rather helpless in knowing how to identify and answer some of their partner’s concerns. I’ve met lots of men who are almost desperate to get their partner on board but don’t know how to accomplish the task. I strongly believe the answer to this dilemma rests initially with the men themselves. I’ve tried to address this with men not only in a chapter in the book but when talking to them directly. It isn’t what I share with his wife that is most important, but it’s critical that he, himself, have a better understanding of, and interest in, his partner’s concerns. (I think some men actually do get this and as a curious side note – over 1/3 of the people who have filled out the form on the favorsventures.com website, to be notified when the book is available for sale, are MEN! Go figure.)

Next Jim and I talked about what kind of vehicle it might take to help these women overcome their apprehensions. I searched websites and books (all those trips to West Marine and other assorted boating stores became research for me while Jim stocked up on supplies) and didn’t really find anything that, in my opinion, would do the job. We had already published a book about the Great Loop, When the Water Calls… We Follow (favorsventures.com) by 27 different loopers, which includes their experiences while completing the Great Loop so we were familiar with the process and I began to think that something similar might be helpful to women who were hesitant to commit to this lifestyle. I personally don’t believe that a narrative by one person can truly give the reader the whole picture. Reading only one perspective can be limiting to someone who really needs more of a “village” approach to get a good overview of this lifestyle.

This is how the book Women On Board Cruising initially came about. I started the groundwork while we spent the early spring and summer on the Chesapeake Bay and finally finished it during our two-month stay in the Keys (almost one year later). After the commitment was made to follow through with the project, I sent an email to many of the women boaters we’ve met over the years, explaining the book project to them and asking for their help in submitting a chapter. Some of the women I contacted connected me with women they knew who they thought would be a nice addition to the venture. This is how we came up with 25 women – loopers, sailors, a few professional writers and one woman who had sailed around the world. I was immediately impressed with the interest and quality of the women who signed up to write chapters. If I asked for input from them they were not only quick to respond but offered help if needed. I think many showed a very vulnerable side that immediately caught my interest as I was reading their submissions. I think most of these women identified with, if not personally, the proposed readers of the book. These veteran women cruisers seemed to know just what to share and share they did – trials, tribulations, humor and tips on long-distance cruising.

These are some of the questions included in my guidelines to the contributors: What were the shared roles and responsibilities between you and your partner? Tell us about the YOU before this experience and the YOU after. Was it your partner who had reservations? What event or experience brought you the greatest growth during your trips? What achievements were gained that you would not have realized in your land life? Did you find you got lonesome or homesick? If so, how did you deal with it? Did friends and family from home join you during part of the trip? What were the rewards of the social interaction while traveling by boat? Did conquering your fears become a life-changing event for you? If you encountered a situation that was horrific and un-thinkable in your previous life, what did you learn from the experience? Sharing Space – if you had misgivings was it, in actuality, as bad as (or better than) you thought it would be? How did you find the availability of grocery stores, restaurants, medical care, etc? What were your rules of engagement with your partner? Tell us about any tips and/or tricks you would like to share. Tell us a story that would help describe your experience. If you traveled with a pet, how did you manage with the challenges presented in this situation? I told the women that I did NOT want excerpts from blogs, logs or journal entries or a long, extensive list of places visited, fuel facts, expenses, etc.

After many “back and forth’s” with copy changes and additions the book finally started to take shape. I had to make an effort to be mindful of our trip plans and tried to work when Jim was absorbed in other projects. I also tried to work on bad weather days so that I could spend the nice days enjoying our mutual passion of boating. It definitely was a challenge for us. We knew it was important to make a point of blocking out time (away from the project) when our moms were on board with us for a week each or when friends visited. I also tried not to be too involved with it when we were cruising through new territory. However there were many late nights and sunny days when I was sucked into the book project with a self-imposed deadline looming ahead. But I will have to say that it has been well worth the effort and really – how bad can it be to have to work on a boat tied to a dock or at anchor with incredible scenery, warm breezes and tropical locales?

I really could not have done this book without Jim’s input and support. He feels as strongly as I do that it would be a shame for anyone to miss out on an opportunity for adventure because of inadequate information. He probably sees it from the male vantage point – the dreams he’s been able to convert into realities because I was a willing and happy participant. He’d really hate to see another guy’s dreams dashed as a result of half of his team abandoning ship.

After reading and re-reading the book in the process of organizing it for book formatting, I immediately recognized what a helpful tool this book will be for reluctant women boaters. Now, when a guy asks us to talk to his partner, we’ll have a more in-depth tool to share with them – to help sway her decision in a positive direction. Sure, we could just share our thoughts and personal experiences but now we can also share the 25 different perspectives and insights of other women long-distance cruisers.

Women On Board Cruising (http://www.favorsventures.com/p/bus-wobc.html) will be available for sale mid-May 2010. We’ll start taking orders May 1 with a shipping date of mid-May.