July 1, 2013
When The Water Calls ... We Follow

June 20, 2013
New Adventures

May 31, 2013
Storing Our Shiny Red Tug

May 13, 2013
Viva La Difference

May 6, 2013
Swinging Free & Easy

April 15, 2013
In The Middle

March 29, 2013
On The Hook

March 18, 2013
Tinker Time

February 28, 2013
Jumping Into the Mix

February 15, 2013
Time Travel

February 6, 2013
Charlevoix - A Small Town With A World-Class Reputation

January 15, 2013
The Perfect Ending

January 1, 2013
Magical Weather & Mysterious Ports

December 15, 2012
Collins Inlet, Killarney, & Little Current

December 1, 2012
New Neighbors

November 16, 2012
What Makes a Perfect Anchorage?

November 1, 2012
Are We There Yet?

October 15, 2012

October 1, 2012
Womens Roundtable

September 15, 2012
Freedom to Discover a Southern Gem

September 1, 2012

August 15, 2012
Nice to Have Options

August 1, 2012
Go West!

July 15, 2012
The Perfect Boating Vacation Destination

July 1, 2012

June 15, 2012
Flagler’s Folly

June 1, 2012
Everglades Detour

May 15, 2012
Making New Friends

May 1, 2012
Something Old and Something New

April 15, 2012
Florida’s Wide Open West Coast

April 1, 2012
Life On the Water in a Trailerable Trawler

March 15, 2012
Becoming Second Nature

March 1, 2012
Last Dance

February 15, 2012
Call it Romance or Mystique

February 1, 2012
Natural Wonders Abound

January 15, 2012
Hardly a Care in the World

January 1, 2012
Wide-Eyed Anticipation

December 15, 2011
Winding Our Way to Lake Powell

December 1, 2011
On to New Cruising Grounds

November 15, 2011
Sharing the Love

November 1, 2011
On the Water Again

October 14, 2011
First Impressions

October 3, 2011
Possession is Nine-Tenths of the Fun

September 15, 2011
Getting the Show on the Road

September 1, 2011
Lets Dance!

August 15, 2011
Getting Our Ducks in a Row

August 1, 2011
Summer Without a Boat

July 15, 2011
The Water and The Boater Home

July 1, 2011
One Step Closer

June 15, 2011
Time Keeps on slippin’ Into the Future

June 1, 2011
Made in the USA

May 15, 2011
Making the Right Truck Choice

May 1, 2011
Absence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder

April 15, 2011
What Goes Around Comes Around

April 1, 2011
Wishing Star Interlude

March 15, 2011
Helping Hands

March 1, 2011

February 15, 2011
Weighing the Options

February 1, 2011
Making a List, Checking it Twice!

January 14, 2011
The Science of Towing

December 30, 2010
The Upside of Downsizing

December 15, 2010
The New Plan!

December 1, 2010
Homeward Bound-The Final Leg

November 15, 2010
Somethings In The Water

November 1, 2010
Our Turn to Relax & Smile

October 15, 2010
Gem in the Rough

October 1, 2010
Whats Your Favorite Place on the Loop?

September 15, 2010
Reflecting Pool

September 1, 2010
Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder

August 15, 2010
Canadian Wonderland

August 1, 2010
"Low Bridge, Everybody Down"

July 15, 2010
One Day At A Time

July 1, 2010
Decisions, Decisions, Decisions!

June 15, 2010
Lets All Do the Rendezvous

June 1, 2010
On the Hard

May 15, 2010
Falling in Love With Key West

May 1, 2010
Helping Women Get On Board

April 15, 2010
Key West - A Repeat Performance

April 1, 2010
Unexpected Pleasures

March 15, 2010
Mom Cruise

March 1, 2010
Okeechobee Bound

February 15, 2010
Chance Encounters

February 1, 2010
Three Nights in Paradise

January 15, 2010
New Frontiers

January 1, 2010
First Time Experiences

December 15, 2009
A Friend In Every Port

December 1, 2009
Dealing With A Temperamental Lady

November 18, 2009
You Say Goodbye, I Say Hello

November 13, 2009
A Cult Following

October 15, 2009
Somewhere in Time

October 1, 2009
Unlocking Our Minds Eye

September 18, 2009
Its In My Nature

August 15, 2009
The RBS Antidote

August 1, 2009
Crab Crazy

July 15, 2009
Sights And Sounds Of The Bay

July 15, 2009
Sights And Sounds Of The Bay

June 15, 2009
Our Last Leg North

June 1, 2009
Northern Migration

May 15, 2009

May 1, 2009
Hello Goodbye

April 15, 2009
Let The Sun Shine In!

April 1, 2009
Dont Worry, Be Happy

March 15, 2009
Bahama Bound

March 1, 2009
What Do You Do All Day?

February 15, 2009
Slow Motion

February 1, 2009
On The Hook With A Million-Dollar View

January 15, 2009
High Anxiety

January 1, 2009
A String Of One-Night Stands

December 15, 2008
Pushing Into New Tennessee River, Upstream To Adventure

December 1, 2008
All Together Now

November 15, 2008
Kismet in the Aftermath of Hurricane Ike

October 31, 2008
Our Love Affair With The River

October 16, 2008
Big City Lights

October 1, 2008
The Adventure Begins

September 15, 2008
Prepping For The Loop

September 1, 2008
The Space Ship

August 15, 2008
Jumping Aboard In Seattle

August 1, 2008
If We Knew Then What We Know Now!

July 10, 2008
The Second Time Around

July 1, 2008
Our Turn For The Great American Loop


The Space Ship
By Kismet, Monday, September 1, 2008

Lisa and I sold our family home in 2005 and have been living on our boat full time (mostly) since that spring. It has not always been as easy as it is today. We’ve learned through trial and error, as well as experience, how to provide each other with our own personal space while also making sure we create some time away from one another. The benefit of our diligent work resulted in making Kismet seem larger than she really is.

Like most couples, before retirement we worked all week during boating season, while immersing ourselves into our boating hobby on the weekends. We’d also plan several long weekends and our summer vacation around boating, as time to explore the Great Lakes waters. Because of our working/boating lifestyle we had plenty of personal space, time away from each other, once we stepped off of the boat. We each had our careers, Lisa in graphic design and I in the financial services industry. Our home also provided the needed roominess, which provided a sanctuary from one another, whether we recognized it at the time, or not.

While anchored out I’d often dinghy ashore to explore the surrounding area. This secluded spot is at Crocker Island in Canada’s North Channel

Prior to 2005, before retirement, 40 percent of our time was spent away from each other at work or personal interests outside of the home. Lisa and I spent 60 percent of our time together enjoying each other’s company, however half of that time was spent sleeping. So when you boil it down we actually only spent 30 percent of our waking hours together. We had plenty of personal space and we loved our time together.

Before we departed Charlevoix, in September of 2005, on our first Great Loop adventure, this personal time was completely monopolized with preparing our house to put up for sale, preparing for the Loop (more on that in a later log), selling and moving out of the house, plus phasing out of my career into retirement. We never gave much thought to being together on a boat 24 hours a day, seven days a week. At least I didn’t. However Lisa probably agonized over this for some time, as I can be a little smothering – I think, in a good way.

Lisa had retired a couple of years prior to me, had developed her own daily routine that did not include my input or me. She managed just fine without me. I’m sure she had a few pangs of doubt about suddenly having me around 100 percent of the time, with all my thoughts and directives about how things (which managed to get done before my retirement) could maybe get done better, faster, more cost effectively. Lisa often still says, “Now that Jim has left his job as manager of his office, I’m the next closest thing on target!”

While in Waterford, New York, at the start of the Erie Canal, I’m returning from an outing that had provided Lisa and me some personal space.

After this flurry of pre-Loop activity, Lisa and I went directly to final Loop preparations and didn’t have the luxury of any down time before we started to spend 24 hours a day, seven days a week with each other. Because of the excitement of starting a new adventure and visiting new ports of call, it felt like we were in the honeymoon phase of our Great Loop.

We’re a couple quite devoted to one another, and have only rare disputes. So, when the boat seemed like it was starting to shrink, when the oxygen level seemed like it was depleting and we were becoming lightheaded with space anxiety, we became alarmed. A red flag went up, the one that signified that we had a problem to solve.

Not only had Lisa and I become a brand new out of the box, newly minted 24/7 couple, we now found ourselves on a boat with few places where we could find solitude. All of a sudden my quirkiness for being overly neat and tidy was starting to bother Lisa. Truth be told, it probably always did a little. It’s difficult keeping a boat orderly all the time. Lisa’s tendency to start one project, leave it sit to start another one was likewise starting to gnaw at me, Mr. Neat-And-Tidy.

Lisa and I had to wait in Carrabelle, Florida, for several days for a good weather opening before crossing the Gulf to Tarpon Springs. We took advantage of the time to make a much-needed run to the Laundromat.

We all have our own idiosyncrasies that go unnoticed when you really only spend 30 percent of your waking hours together. Not counting sleeping we were instantly spending 75-percent face time together. That was twice as much time to potentially annoy one another. What’s that old proverb, that we must be careful of too much of a good thing? Hmm.

Lisa has always been very good at addressing situations head on, without delay, and our shrinking-boat dilemma was no exception. Less then 10 days into our Loop trip, Lisa said, “We need to talk” -- words every guy loves to hear.

During our sit-down conversation we agreed that we needed to find a way to provide each other some personal space on a daily basis. In reality this is very healthy for any relationship,. However providing personal space can be difficult in a 600-square-foot floating home, especially on travel days when we had no shore access. Our challenge was set, we needed to find ways for both of us to regain some individual time and space.

Lisa and I each read a large number of books while Looping. We found reading to be very relaxing and the most enjoyable while anchored. Reading also provided some personal time.

We set some ground rules to help make both our lives more pleasant. The residual benefit of more personal time resulted in making our boat seem larger. We were able to find more to talk about, since we’d spent some time apart, and were gaining separate experiences that we could now share.

Prior to our space problem, when at the dock, Lisa and I used the marina shower facilities (our own shower was being used for storage). Our daily routine was to go up to the bathhouse at the same time. It was a slight change but we agreed to make the shower journey independent of one another therefore creating a two-hour window of alone time for each of us.

Also helpful for us was defining boat chores. We realized during our discussion that most of Lisa’s daily chores were inside and mine were outside of the boat or in the engine room. It was beneficial for a harmonious relationship for us to let each other manage our own chores. This was very difficult for me as I have a tendency to “manage” Lisa, but in the end we were successful.

Lisa and I anchored out 35 percent of the time, here in the North Channel of Canada. If we hadn’t resolved our shrinking-boat situation, these types of anchorages wouldn’t have been as pleasurable.

The further we traveled the more people we met who were also on the Loop. Often times when we’d get to port the guys would get together and discuss anchorages, navigation hazards, routes, and weather. If the marina where we were staying had loaner cars, the guys would often make runs to the local marine store for the much-needed toilet paper, charts, or engine oil. These types of meetings and errands built friendships, provided Looper camaraderie and for Lisa and me it gave us a little more personal space.

As we met more Loopers we found we were not alone in our 24/7 tension-filled travels. I recall locking through several locks with another boating couple. As we’d come into a lock and secure our lines, the fun would start,. The other boat was always in front of us so Lisa and I had a good front-row seat to witness their antics.

I’m off exploring, as I love to do whenever I can. This time just happens to be without Lisa, however most of the time we’re sightseeing together.

It would start when the woman would yell at her husband to pull the line in on the bow (she was trying to keep the like-new fenders from touching the lock walls). As soon as this happened the stern would kick out away from the lock wall. He’d yell at her to pull in the stern line and then the bow would go out. Around the second volley of line pulling, she’d start going ballistic with the poor guy for doing what she was asking him to do. This went on for about five locks, and although they were clearly not having a good time, Lisa and I found some humor in their troubles. I guess by this time in the trip we’d learned to relax.

Humor was also helpful to relieve or prevent tension in our new 24/7 boating world. We met a couple who told us about one of their rules of engagement for boating that we found humorous. They told us that they had to have a boat with wood doors. Puzzled, we asked why. They said they had to have wood doors on their boat so that when one of them got mad at the other they’d have something to slam shut.

During their first year of boating full-time, they said, the door was slammed hard three times. During the second year it slammed gently only twice. The third year was quiet. Their message was that over time they learned to adjust so they could survive and thrive in such a small space and not take everything so seriously. They tried to see the humor in what they were experiencing and we learned from them.

After 5,900 miles of Great Loop travel, learning how to share our boat and provide each other personal space became second nature. Here we are at Mackinaw Island, one of favorite ports and just two days from Loop completion.

Once we had all our new strategies in place and began to implement them, we found we were not getting on each other’s nerves quite as often. By my working a little more diligently at not trying to manage Lisa, and relaxing on my neat-and-tidy fetish, by Lisa keeping her projects more organized along with each of us working at providing the other some private time, our trip was becoming more enjoyable. We returned to our happy, caring selves.

Our new routine of providing personal space worked out so well during the balance of our 2005-06 Loop that we recently decided to venture out for a two-year Loop adventure. Life really has gotten easier on our boat for Lisa and me, but it wouldn’t have happened if we hadn’t provided some space for each other the first time around